It’s deffo kinda weird when people do it. Like, I understand being frustrated and wanting to vent but there is no way any of them are going to see a lemmy comment, of all things.
I totally get being mad, and the fediverse is complicated enough and different enough from other social media experiences that I totally understand where the intuition comes from. I just want to invite people to come join us, and making the threadiverse a more friendly place to the humans that interact here is a prerequisite for me.
Yeah, I’ll do my best. I just wanted to remind you that I just get a message in my inbox that says I’m a nazi, even though you mean it for someone else.
Just a heads up. These are not messages. They are public forum posts.
I can see how it would be discombobulating to see that appearing as a message in your inbox, but although you are notified, it’s not a message to you. It’s a notification of comments in a thread or post you follow.
Sure, people have conversations through threads. But, it’s still different.
Your first messages conveyed the confusion of discovering it, but blaming the other poster for your response, for a valid comment, while bemoaning user engagement is a bit contradictory.
I see your heart is in the right place, and you’re mildly offended, but you too, could consider the context and the impact your posts have.
No, the fediverse supports tagging users. Comment threads can be used for a conversation but should not be confused with direct messages, which are generally private. It’s a community conversation where anyone can jump in at any point.
It’s true in pretty much all forums, federated or not.
Your request that people be more pleasant implies they were being unpleasant. They weren’t, unless you’re Hegseth. As you said, you’re misinterpreting their comment.
I don’t think you know what a non-sequitor is.
At this point I’m dropping out as this is not productive and you’re becoming very combative. It’s a bit ironic considering your request for politeness.
I agree, I was being critical. However, I was trying to do so in a constructive way. It’s obviously not constructive for you.
Just a heads’ up — I get these messages, not Hegseth.
You understand that in that context (because of how the headline is worded) the response is to Hegseth and not you, right?
When I’m replying to a headline a person posted, I’ll specifically address the person in the article by name, but I wanted to let you know that most people aren’t going to think you’re a Nazi because you’re posting a new article about a Nazi’s behavior.
Yeah, it just takes a minute to orient myself since the context I see it in is my inbox, rather than in the thread. I mostly just mean that if you want more people to post more things, making it a pleasant experience is likely to help, and spending 30 seconds trying to figure out who you pissed off and why, only to find it’s addressed at some third party is not a particularly pleasant experience. “You” in a top-level comment is inherently ambiguous — you could be addressing me (the OP), the author of the article, or the subject of the article, and it just takes a sec to figure out.
You first you Nazi fuck.
Just a heads’ up — I get these messages, not Hegsheth.
It’s deffo kinda weird when people do it. Like, I understand being frustrated and wanting to vent but there is no way any of them are going to see a lemmy comment, of all things.
I totally get being mad, and the fediverse is complicated enough and different enough from other social media experiences that I totally understand where the intuition comes from. I just want to invite people to come join us, and making the threadiverse a more friendly place to the humans that interact here is a prerequisite for me.
Hell yeah.
amen
Oh is that how this works?
So, you’ll pass on the message.
This is fun, reminds me of telephone.
Yeah, I’ll do my best. I just wanted to remind you that I just get a message in my inbox that says I’m a nazi, even though you mean it for someone else.
🤘
🤙
Just a heads up. These are not messages. They are public forum posts.
I can see how it would be discombobulating to see that appearing as a message in your inbox, but although you are notified, it’s not a message to you. It’s a notification of comments in a thread or post you follow.
Sure, people have conversations through threads. But, it’s still different.
Your first messages conveyed the confusion of discovering it, but blaming the other poster for your response, for a valid comment, while bemoaning user engagement is a bit contradictory.
I see your heart is in the right place, and you’re mildly offended, but you too, could consider the context and the impact your posts have.
That may be true in other forums, but in the fediverse, both I and the community are actors, and the posts here are messages to us.
And I’m not particularly offended. I figured it out eventually. It just isn’t a particularly fun time.
No, the fediverse supports tagging users. Comment threads can be used for a conversation but should not be confused with direct messages, which are generally private. It’s a community conversation where anyone can jump in at any point.
It’s true in pretty much all forums, federated or not.
Your point is strictly non sequitar. At no point did I claim anyone was misbehaving in my DMs.
Your request that people be more pleasant implies they were being unpleasant. They weren’t, unless you’re Hegseth. As you said, you’re misinterpreting their comment.
I don’t think you know what a non-sequitor is.
At this point I’m dropping out as this is not productive and you’re becoming very combative. It’s a bit ironic considering your request for politeness.
I agree, I was being critical. However, I was trying to do so in a constructive way. It’s obviously not constructive for you.
You understand that in that context (because of how the headline is worded) the response is to Hegseth and not you, right?
When I’m replying to a headline a person posted, I’ll specifically address the person in the article by name, but I wanted to let you know that most people aren’t going to think you’re a Nazi because you’re posting a new article about a Nazi’s behavior.
Yeah, it just takes a minute to orient myself since the context I see it in is my inbox, rather than in the thread. I mostly just mean that if you want more people to post more things, making it a pleasant experience is likely to help, and spending 30 seconds trying to figure out who you pissed off and why, only to find it’s addressed at some third party is not a particularly pleasant experience. “You” in a top-level comment is inherently ambiguous — you could be addressing me (the OP), the author of the article, or the subject of the article, and it just takes a sec to figure out.
Little bit late on the draw, but I since I was guilty of more or less the same thing, I edited my comment to read differently. Sorry 'bout that.