• Pycorax@sh.itjust.works
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      1 day ago

      Mind expanding on that? Because to put it bluntly, part of it just sounds like giving up and stagnating.

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        15 hours ago

        That’s up to you. It’s your mind.

        Example: I used to get really angry at people online when they were being stupid. My expectation of people was that they weren’t stupid, or would at least listen and learn. That expectation needed to change if I wanted to enjoy being online. So I changed my mind. I no longer expect people to not be stubborn idiots. Some are, and that’s ok.

        Is it giving up? Giving up an expectation, yes. Did I give up trying to converse with the not stupid ones? Nope! And now I’m in a much better mood to do it.

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          14 hours ago

          Well I can definitely agree with that if it’s minor things like these. After all, you’re likely to not encounter this person after the conversation online. However, I think it’s a very different context if the object in question is more concrete and something you can own to improve your QOL or more.