When I figured out that a lot of people are going to spend their better years, wasting away, working jobs they hate every 40 hours of the week and 8 hours a day or longer. That is unless they either have been born with that silver spoon in their mouth or had at least been born with the tools of ambition to develop careers out of it that isn’t just slaving away, making people who’re not them, richer.
And by the time we’re done, if ever we see retirement, we’re then told to ‘enjoy retirement’. Some at 65, some far older. When we’re too frail to even enjoy anything we once could when we were younger. It’s a very cruel joke of life, if you ask me. Born to play throughout your toddler to kid to teenage days, enslaved to work through your young adolescent and adulthood days, grow old and weak as you’re older until death.
And we’re not even fully enjoying it on our way through this path either because of this design.
If anybody calls you a ‘deadbeat’ for deciding to play games all day or even sitting on your couch binge watching things. You educate them about how “productive” it is working as a wage slave and how deep in the hole it has gotten us in society.
One thing I learned over the years is that toxic people don’t change. The signs are always there from the very beginning, and ignoring them is always a choice.
It took me 3 years of dating a toxic woman to realize this. At the beginning I was so happy at the thought of having a relationship that I intentionally ignored red flags that were always there. I ignored her passive aggressiveness, her emotional unavailability, her manipulative tendencies, her narcissism, all of it. I was miserable, but I tried to naively convince myself that I could try to change her or that she would see things my way eventually, but that’s a stupid mentality to have.
People can only ever change themselves. Change requires dissatisfaction with oneself, and that comes from personal growth. Toxic people like this, they’re always satisfied with themselves, which is why they’re unaware of their toxicity. These people can’t ever change. This is why it is vitally important to not ignore the signs in the beginning, it’s never worth it. You’ll be in a bad relationship from day one, and it’ll only get worse with time. If you’re smelling something sketch about the person you’re dating, then trust your gut and dip. Your hunches will be right more often than not.