• ColeSloth@discuss.tchncs.de
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    14 hours ago

    The kids are still dumb?

    Even if you’re being PC as can be; it was PRE transition dress. She’ll be the 2nd girl to wear it. The first one’s… dead.

    • atopi@piefed.blahaj.zone
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      9 hours ago

      trans people are born their gender. There is a huge difference between cis people and trans people before transitioning with the same assigned gender at birth. Before they realize they are trans, they act as their gender, but convinced they are their assigned gender at birth so they try to do things they perceive as respecting that gender.

      this is from my own experience and other trans people i have seen, so it probably doesnt apply to every trans person ever, but i dont think its that big of an assumption for a child to make

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      14 hours ago

      The idea is that they were always their identified gender even before they realized it or were comfortable saying it publicly. I get the sense from this post that you are tolerant, but not entirely informed. (Which is okay! When understanding stops being a process is when it stops being understanding.)

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        13 hours ago

        I don’t think someone who says “even if you’re being PC” is a tolerant person?

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          9 hours ago

          I want to be as ‘PC’ as possible, but I can no longer afford the RAM. That damned ai strikes again!!

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      14 hours ago

      … Unless he transitioned before going to prom? Or maybe considers himself as always having been male before formally transitioning?

      She was trying to be kind and inclusive. No need to grumpily look down on her because “uhm actually”.

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        10 hours ago

        I was reading it as, “now this dress has the capacity to have had boy cooties on it” which I would have thought, in my limited frame of reference, that would make the dress more gross and perhaps at the very least less desirable for those who are inquiring enough to care about “who has worn this before me”. but I guess if you think about it from the perspective of pulling it off, wearing it well and it fitting their personal taste well for the “first time for that dress”, for whatever that’s worth could be the other interpretation which could reasonably be something I could see someone being excited about

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      12 hours ago

      They were still themselves before they started transitioning, that part doesn’t change. They were always a boy if that’s what they’ve come to understand they are as part of transitioning.