Pretty wild! All states give you at least 30 days to dump your baby, no strings attached. Some states give you 60 days!

I feel like more people should know about this! It seems like a highly under utilized ability.

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      I’m more concerned how he had ten kids and then felt overwhelmed when his wife left him. Like what the fuck?!

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          And I’ve not met many men with 10 kids who are super into doing the whole “dividing the labor of parenting evenly” thing, and I went to catholic schools, I knew some big families. And even if he had been the type to do that, you aren’t winding up being the breadwinner for a family with 10 kids and having both low stress finances and a low stress job. So adding in lots of extra home duties and possibly reduced financial capabilities and mourning will probably wreck you.

          That said, I’ve never met a family that large where the parents kept actually parenting beyond number 3 or 4. Some of the most horrifically parentified people I ever met were middle daughters of large families. Also the kids are struggling too, and each of them is likely to have taken some lasting psychic damage from being abandoned by their dad, even temporarily, shortly after their mom died.

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              As long as we are doing hypothetical, he may have been working long hours to pay for all the costs while she was stay at home. When she died, working all the time and trying to care for kids and grieving is going to be massively stressful. Bot to mention the aunt for 7 of the kids decided to have a custody battle so lots and lots of possible things leading to being overwhelmed.

              But you clearly assume he is a deadbeat because he’s a man. Have fun with that.

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                  Because he didn’t do Jack raising them probably

                  Would you have assumed the sameblack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids?

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                    I don’t think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children

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      “I think there’s a misperception that we just inadvertently left an age cap out. But the reality was we wanted to save lives of older kids who might be at risk,” said Amanda McGill Johnson, a Nebraska state senator at the time.

      That actually kind of makes sense? I mean, dropping off teens is excessive, but maybe it highlights an issue? Overwhelmed parents of teenagers isn’t something I had on my list of people that need more help, at least.

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        That is surprisingly kind for a Nebraskan legislator. Isn’t NE one of the states where they’d rather let women die than abort a fetus?

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          No, they’d rather let the mother die and get a free child prostitute out of it than to abort a fetus.

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      I guess it highlights why there should be no age limit… the response to introduce an age limit of 30 days certainly is not the right one.