I can start. I spent a few days with friends. We didn’t do anything that special but it’s good to catch up and soak up some positivity from them.

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    15 hours ago

    My wife and I had been trying for a child. Then she left me 2 weeks ago.
    The best thing that happened to me this week was finding out she’s not pregnant.
    Also, instead of depair or grief over the separation, literally all I feel is relief.

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      4 hours ago

      Thats really tough, man. Im glad youre holding up okay for now. I’m happy for you to have dodged the baby bullet as well :)

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        It hit me like a semi truck, cause shit went sideways out of nowhere within 2 weeks.
        But she’s moved out without a fuss, our finances are separate, and I kept the cats.
        Still kind of numb, but I also massively enjoy the quiet and relaxation right now.
        The marriage was exciting, but it was also a constant whirlwind.

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          Thats wild, from married to moved out that fast. I’m sorry things turned out that way. I went through a shockingly similar experience last year, so I know how difficult that can be. Grief comes in waves and out of nowhere sometimes. Silver linings like kitties and quiet nights are the little things that can help a lot, I found.

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            3 hours ago

            Thanks for your kind words.
            Yeah, I’m sure the grief will still come.
            And it’ll be hard to achieve my dream of becoming a father now, as a 41 year old single…

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              Im happy to try and share some positivity. It costs nothing to be kind after all. It might seem daunting or difficult now, but the only way it’ll never happen is if you stop trying, you know?