I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.
I think the key to this is how you really feel about it. If you are genuinely happy with the arrangement, and aware you will eventually need to move on, that can be okay. If you start to feel any self-esteem issue, like you’re being taken advantage of, it’s time to get out and find something better. Always respect yourself.