I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.
Not only does the “relationship” have no future, as he won’t go against the wishes of his racist family, but if I were you I’d feel insulted and used. He knew all of this in advance and he still went this far with you? Let’s just hope he’s immature and pre-PFC development, else he’s just plain evil. Come on, V.
TIL having a relationship without the intention of marrying the person is ‘plain evil’.
Without the plan of staying with that person in a committed long-term relationship, knowing that the other person very much wants that? Certainly.