People just adding others in pseudo-friendships, friendships that don’t really mean anything and people treating others like they’re a service or speed-dial or so. I am part of the last generation of people it feels like, where, you befriended someone with intent to build a bond with them and that bond is built upon year after year. You gain memories, then when the old memories are old, you make new ones.

I’ve noticed an alarming amount of people who’ll just add you because they only see you as someone to lean on. Not because the relationship is meaningful, but someone who is just there ‘when in need’ as they go off not doing anything for large portions of time. This creates an artificial, shallow and hollow experience where a lot of time, you will feel like you’re the one upholding the friendship.

And that only isn’t normal to me, but simply unacceptable. Then you’ve got people who can’t even go a day without communication so now they call it ‘ghosting’ which is another overly spammed word that has lost meaning. I’m low maintenance, who can go periods of time without talking but at the same time, I do also want things to be meaningful. Doesn’t have to be constant, just something within the year.

And I’ve had people in my life who simply cannot do that. I’ve had people who still consider friends after not talking for years and years. What do you mean you’re okay with that? That’s lost time! I don’t enjoy having to spend however long playing catch up.

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    9 days ago

    Sitting on the fence is a weak stance. I am literally shaking right now reading you are comfortable with arriving atop that position so sharply. The only fair action wood be to post your beaming support and fall on the right side of it. It’s clear that everyone on the left side is not on the right side, you can only ever be on one side at any one time and nothing you can say otherwise is a valid defence against what everyone else has hammered on tooth and nail. Pivoting or hinging your bets to be able to swing freely is latching onto false security and like agate - ornamental. You clearly must brace yourself and picket a side, cementing your footing so you do not go around paling in comparison to others who are railing around with more electrified boundaries of what they are willing to uphold. May your shaded post and foundations rot in the rainy hell you have chosen to exist.

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      8 days ago

      8.5/10

      Brevity is the soul of wit. Even if you’re going for bloviating, it could have been a bit more compact.

      I did get a Terry Pratchett vibe, so you’re certainly on the right track