Husband of ADHD person here, a second-person perspective if you wanna call it this way.
It kinda feels like I have two wives, because it’s very hard to internalize that one person can both be pedantic perfectionist in things they like and then lose their keys three to five times a day and leave clutter everywhere. She does complex physical activities and meditation without issue… but then documentation and complex IT systems look like random noise to her. The moment she finishes her task, all tools used vanish from her mind and are left wherever she finished that task. Nothing is ever back where it belongs and I act as mother from memes every day (the one that can always find what you lost).
Luckily we live in Poland, she got diagnosed in an hour (I like to imagine the doctors took one good look at her and said “yup”) and week later got confirmation and prescription for drugs. Drugs work silly - she can’t do her hobbies after taking drugs, but she can do her 9-5 job. Thus schedule was made so that she can have time for hobbies in the morning, and then take the drugs before work.
Husband of ADHD person here, a second-person perspective if you wanna call it this way.
It kinda feels like I have two wives, because it’s very hard to internalize that one person can both be pedantic perfectionist in things they like and then lose their keys three to five times a day and leave clutter everywhere. She does complex physical activities and meditation without issue… but then documentation and complex IT systems look like random noise to her. The moment she finishes her task, all tools used vanish from her mind and are left wherever she finished that task. Nothing is ever back where it belongs and I act as mother from memes every day (the one that can always find what you lost).
Luckily we live in Poland, she got diagnosed in an hour (I like to imagine the doctors took one good look at her and said “yup”) and week later got confirmation and prescription for drugs. Drugs work silly - she can’t do her hobbies after taking drugs, but she can do her 9-5 job. Thus schedule was made so that she can have time for hobbies in the morning, and then take the drugs before work.