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  • Im an old therapist and I always recommend the power of silence.

    I’m not nice to my co-workers. I am courteous, professional and set boundaries.

    If someone asks me a private question about my life, family, children or anything I consider personal. I just remain silent.

    Silence is simple. It take no brain power, whereas trying to think of ways to deflect questions will be stressful.

    It is not written in stone that I have to answer questions. Silence is a powerful tool.

    I never get into justifying to anyone why I do not want to share my personal stuff. Its personal for a reason.


  • The question: How do I live the rest of my life?

    You must ask yourself, how did I manage to get to where I am today.

    Reading your post, you say you have not been diagnosed.

    The spectrum today, in comparson to 20 years ago has expanded exponentially from the original.

    Personally, I think an introvert could get a diagnosis.

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    You are a human being, you are not a Label or a position on a spectrum.

    There is no perfect human being, we are all different, not one of us is a diagnoses. That is why we are given names at birth.

    I dont know anyone called, adhd, autistic, psychotic or depressed.

    Diagnoses are what the medical profession likes to use to label us and put us in little boxes.

    The rest of the world see each one of us as some random human walking down the street.

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    During my psychotherapy undergraduate years at University, my peers and I did an experiment.

    The experiment was to challenge the status quo, and assess how easy it was to get a diagnoses and get a prescription.

    So being your typical, annoying under grads, a few of us. including me, went to our respective doctors and complained about; feeling down, unable to sleep, not eating very well, and extremely stressed because of the work load at university.

    My GP referred me to see a psychiatrist at my local hospital. I was diagnosed with clinical depression and generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) with a likelihood of a personality disorder.

    He prescribed me the anti-depressant Mirtazapine and pregabalin for the anxiety.

    Obviously, I was healthy 30 year old and didn’t go the the chemist to get my prescription. I also told my doctor so he could remove any referrences to mental ill health added to my medical history.

    We knew it was a stupid thing to do, but it did give us lots to think about, regarding the state of attaining a medical diagnoses, being prescribed unnecessary drugs and being given labels.

    By the way, psychotherapists dont label people.