I think that’s a problem in many relationships, romantic or professional. Saying that you will do something and not doing it is terrible (sorry, you and your wife is right). Putting it in the calendar is the way as someone said. First put in an hour where you can figure out the steps (does it fit in the car, do I need one of those wheelie things, where can I get rid of it) and then schedule the actual getting rid of it and any steps before that. Break shit down. Use an LLM if it helps you. Making a detailed plan is good because then you can’t ponder it any more (trying to figure out the best way of doing something has stopped many a person from doing anything). Calendar items means that it’s more important than anything else you might be doing at that time (like vacuuming or whatever).

It’s the DO IT. DO IT NOW coping strategy where you do anything you notice / realise needs doing if it takes less than five minutes - with the extension that it takes less than five minutes to put things into a calendar.

Maybe couples therapy is a better investment than therapy for you individually.

Not sitting enough: is the issue that you are not working or that she doesn’t feel you are carrying your part of the domestic work?

I got this from Reddit (I know, sorry)

"u/reinschlau • 1y ago It’s a joke. But out of curiosity I ctrl+f’ed through the collected works, and the only mention of cocaine was in a letter from Engels to Ludwig Kugelmann (volume 48), in 1889 (after Marx’s death, when Engels would have been editing Capital vol 3 and whatever else Marx left behind):

Dear Kugelmann, A Happy New Year to you. Thank you for the prescription for my eyes, which, however, is not nearly concentrated enough for me. Last year and up till August I used cocaine and, as this grew less effective (on account of habituation), went on to ZnCl 2 , which works very well.

But there are also relevant discussions of alcohol and opium in The Condition of the Working-Class in England and elsewhere."

It seems to cover most of it. You probably have to read the relevant parts on alcohol and opium to get the full picture but it is mostly a joke.

PS the uses of cocaine as a medication in olden days is pretty fun some times. I once saw an ad for cocaine as a “nasal anesthetic”. I bet that flew off the shelves. Seriously though, it was probably fairly expensive and diluted.

Gardening is nice because I can scale it down quite a lot (at least where I live) and when I forget to water or fertilize I’m “encouraging resilience” in my plants.

Haha, doing the voices! I give them different accents in my mind, like southern Murican, Indian, Russian.

God I hate AWS

Last year I tried to go off medication because I had been on it (extended release ritalin) for seven years and wanted to see where I was (and I had been laid off so I was less scared of work impact and was keen for things to be a bit different). Did that for half a year and then went back to the doctor. Tried Strattera because I thought it might be milder on the stomach - it did nothing for me. Then we tried lisdexamfetamine because it has a reputation for “being better” and my doctor thinks it’s great. And I really tried and varied the dose and so on but it is less effective for me and has more side effects. So now I’m back on Ritalin but trying without time release. Anyway, long story. Just wanted to say that I think high doses of stimulants can make me a bit more anxious and scatterbrained rather than the other way like it’s supposed to. And that Adderall isn’t necessarily better than Ritalin just because it’s more expensive and more “hardcore”.

And I think all the other advice here about writing down a conversation agenda is much more important - not for social bonding conversations of course, only those with a goal. Just wanted to point out that medication adjustment is never ending for this stuff. And maxed out stimulant plus Strattera sounds like a doctor who just upped her prescriptions until they were max and then went “welp, that’s all I can do, bye”.

Finally, a tiny bit of the problem could also be you. Tiny, miniscule bit. Some conversations are just social bonding. They don’t have a purpose and if they meander over lots of topics and shift abruptly that’s fine. It might be a bit uncomfortable for some people, especially if they like scientific rigor and structure. And you might have developed a little antipathy towards those kinds of conversations if your important conversations also get similarly derailed. I certainly would. So written notes for important conversations and space and patience and love for other conversations 😘

Father-daughter balls

There’s poor emotional regulation but adrenalin is also self-medication. So screaming at other people gets your adrenaline up which helps you focus and feel good. Obviously unhealthy and sucks for everybody around you. Very toxic.

Never finish because you are overwhelmed, perfectionist, and scared of change

You can’t tell it no. In the tusk case just start over. Never use “don’t do this, don’t do that” instead use incompatible behaviour (e.g. I hate when my friend’s dog jumps on me so I’ve trained it to sit when greeting me).

Make pancakes

But my client on my phone has my email as well though, right? Unless I used the browser on my phone.

Remove the broken leg. Stack books to replace it.

If corporations can be people then people can be objects. It’s quite simple really.

Subsidies for coal and taxes on solar

Solve physics and kill god

This doesn’t say anything about whether their new vaccine protects against HIV.

But they took a classic adjuvant, alum, and combined it with a novel adjuvant (this new adjuvant actually two adjuvants combined to a nanoparticle). The antigens (what the immune system recognizes) stayed in the lymph nodes for 4 weeks and there were 3x more unique antibodies produced by the mice.

Yeah, the people who want Mar a Lago face (Google it) will get that.

But if other plastic surgery is undetectable then how would you know whether anyone has had it?

Haha, so USA can’t have five story buildings because the parking lot would have to be really big. ½ mile is 800 m? That’s fine, distance wise from the train station. Maybe 0.4 miles would be better but you can still walk ½ mile in a bit over ten minutes.