I’m having a shit start to my week already. It feels like no one cares and whenever I try to reach out I’m just put off. Tried to talk to my teacher but he just reccommended me to my counselor, who is out of office. Tried to talk to a hotline but my text wouldn’t go through because my signal was shit. Tried to make a forum on reddit but post gets taken down.
Whenever I feel like this I just hole myself up in the bathroom. In 6th grade I would go to the bathroom in Spanish class to just cry, but it got to the point where the girls would make fun of me for using it often so I stopped going in that class.
Sorry for venting. The question is do you guys have a safe spot you hide in when you feel down? And if so where? Because bathrooms aren’t good for me
Anywhere my pets are. Without my dog I wouldnt have made it through college. The off leash dog park was our stress free zone.
Sorry things feel overwhelming right now. Especially when you’re doing the right thing, reaching out. You got this.
I think that the closest that I had at school was the library. Even decades later I am still happy when surrounded by books.
Otherwise, somewhere green: walking in woodland or sitting by a stream always improves things.
My single-player Minecraft skyblock world. Nothing exists there except what I permit.
Sometimes I wish it was available at work.
No.
I go sit in my car. Can you ask your teacher for a pass to the library? If the library doesn’t work, go to the school nurse. Tell them you’re struggling and you need a quiet place to be alone for s few minutes and regroup.
I used to make the rounds in the largest libraries around me. I’d find the coziest spot to hide in. At Uni I’d find a good study cubby and hide there. Napping also helps with a nice jacket on.
Library
Blanket+dog+floor of small closet.
You can learn to meditate anywhere.
It’s like any other skill, you have to put some effort in at the start, but the results are worth it.
You don’t need meditation tapes, candles, or anything else.
Find a quiet place, sit down, close your eyes and try to find a quiet spot in your mind. A beach or a mountain top or grandma’s kitchen; wherever you feel most serene.
You can just count “one, two one, two” as you breath in and out.
Just try to keep your thoughts quiet for ten seconds to start. Then work up to 30 seconds, and then a minute.
As someone unable to picture anything in my mind outside of extremely rare dreams, I’m jealous of your ability to place yourself in a peaceful environment on command.
Anyone can meditate.
You don’t have to imagine the beach or the mountains. Just find a quiet spot in your mind. Some folks just look at the inside of their eyelids.
It took me a long time to get the racing thoughts to settle down. One thing I would do is close my eyes and start the meditation by thinking about fireworks going off. After a few explosions it was easy to tell myself it was time to relax.
Inhale on ‘one,’ hold a beat and then exhale on ‘two.’ Repeat.
Even if it’s five seconds to start it’s a beginning.
You can also do it while walking or riding a bike. Obviously you don’t close your eyes, but you try to think about nothing but the next step or push on the pedal.
I’m also bipolar. Therapy is the best solution. Medicine if you need it. No shame with either one, just own it. My brain chemistry is a little bit different and that’s ok. Same for you. Good luck!
I could never find 1 spot in school that was consistantly safe for me to retreat to for any period of time. Instead I had multiple spots all over where I’d retreat to for short time frames. If one wasn’t available, I could move on to the next one without getting too upset.
Friend, I’m sending you hugs, and if you’re open to it I’d strongly recommend building meditation skills. Therapy is a must if you want to understand why you feel this way, but meditation can help a lot in the meantime. I wish you the best, and hope you find somewhere safe to breathe today ❤️
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You make think that you are in the safe spot, but the safe spot is in you. Be at peace with yourself, and the only then can you be at peace with all that is around you.
Have you tried a physical outlet for these emotions? Hit the gym, or put on some headphones and go for a long run. Running can be very meditative and you can do it pretty much anywhere.
I used to spend hours as a teenager underneath my bed or in crawlspaces listening to music and audio books. Do recommend, it got me through. Hang in there, my friend. It really and truly does get better once you have more control over who you spend time around. Until then, take care of yourself as gently as you can. Try to give yourself small kindnesses. You matter a lot.
There’s no place in reality that I can feel safe or comfortable. Anywhere that there is any chance of a human being perceiving me or me perceiving another human being is not a place that I can feel comfortable in. The only refuge that I can find is in books and video games.
