When people tell me about a project and say, “oh, this took me 5 years to do” it just makes me think, “damn, so it’d take me 10 years to get something twice as bad as this?”
fuck im being attacked! Doing this right this second and have for almost a whole year :(
The trick is to tell no one and still do nothing! You get to keep the friends and the anxiety!
That’s exactly what I did the day I realized people didn’t react anymore whenever I told them the new thing I wanted to do, they just knew I wouldn’t do shit in the end.
Still try and do the thing. Just don’t tell anyone until it’s done!
I believe in your book idea/code project/game concept/movie script!
No, I really don’t need another bunch of money spent for a half finished project that I’m never going to finish or hobby that I’ll never return to. It sounds bad but it truly is better for me to give up and not try, at least it doesn’t continue piling failures on top of me.
Notice how all of mine were things for which little money is spent in the process. Lol.
what kinds of half finished projects do you have laying around, and what kind of hobbies are you never returning to?
Except then I don’t share anything with my friends and slowly lose them anyway because I’m boring.
Just a tinge of RSD
Literally me, unfortunately I have gaslit myself into thinking I’m just a lazy person. It’s pretty fucked up
I’ve actually heard a fairly common motivation tip is to not tell people when you’ve started a new project or healthy habit.
Some people believe that sharing the news with people is what ultimately gives you the feelgood chemicals, and then suddenly you have less desire to do the thing.
I don’t think this is to say that you shouldn’t share your accomplishments. In fact, if you struggle with perfectionism, you might never think that you’re totally finished a project. But if you’re in the tenuous first stages of a new activity, it might benefit you to wait until things are a little more concrete before sharing the fun stuff.
I heard and kinda do this exact thing based off a TED Talk from years ago.
It kinda works, until you need to start telling your manager wtf you’re working on and how much progress you’ve made 🤦
