At least on the communities i follow. Every so often I come across a thread where i recognize most of the users there even in the big communities with over 30k members and I haven’t even been on lemmy that long.

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      some of those are also the same kind of power tripping neckbeard discord mods we fled from by leaving reddit. (fragile ego ban incoming in 3…2…1…)

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        I don’t understand what neck beard means. I see it used, but I still can’t really figure out what it means. The other thing I don’t understand is incel, not that you used that word but it’s another one that I see used frequently that I don’t understand. Are the two related? Also, I’m old In case you couldn’t tell

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          From Wikipedia:

          “Neckbeard” is a pejorative term and stereotype for an adult man or teenage boy who exhibits characteristics such as social awkwardness, underachievement, or pretentiousness.

          And incels are described as:

          An online community of young men who consider themselves unable to attract women sexually, typically associated with views that are hostile toward women and men who are sexually active.

          Certainly not related communities but could conceivably overlap. Not surprising that a lot of Internet trolls fall into one of those categories.

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          Neckbeards: having “facial” hair that basically only covers the neck. It’s the idea that these guys who don’t have the facial hair to grow a full beard have poor hygiene.

          Incel: Involuntary Celibate, shortened to incel. Someone who can’t get laid for one reason or another. The propblem being the people who generally self-identity as incel, who are usually toxic and sexist.

          These aren’t necessarily linked, but incels are usually the type to have such poor hygiene as to have a neckbeard.

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            Ohhhh. Thank you!

            I thought neckbeard referred to a hipster beard. That makes more sense now.

            Weirdly, sex has changed in the last couple of decades. When i was young (back in my day 🤦) women could get laid anytime they wanted and men had to put in a little effort. So when i hear involuntarily celibate, i just think ‘don’t be a dick. You’re gonna have to work a little for it,’ but i guess they’re not getting any because they’re misogynistic?

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              Lots of people just can’t or don’t get laid for plenty of reasons, shyness or some kind of disinterest does not an incel make. An incel is mostly synonymous with what you probably think of when you hear basement dweller, but inverse the elitism and with an added sexual element. extreme misogyny, extreme entitlement towards women, extreme resentment towards the sexually active, occasionally fixated on the idea of masculinity, and overwhelming self hatred.

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          because that’s the excuse mods use to get rid of differing viewpoints. Anything they disagree with is suddenly ‘bigotry’.

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                “COVID vaccinations were effective, but not safe.” - ichbinjasokreativ

                Also the claim that immigrant workers are “uneducated rapists,” and weird nonsense comparing trans people and how “they mutilate their genitals” to circumcizing a baby.

                “Facts.”

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                  All of this is accurate information. Covid vaccines were widely adopted at the same time as spikes in lung related hospitalization, in covid-negative people. Refugees were advertised to us in europe as being the well-educated middle class of their respective countries, which turned out to be a lie and the offiacial, government issued statistics on violent crime and spicifically sexual crimes showed massive increase since we let millions of them into our country. Also, the fact that mtf trans people need to insert stretching devices to prevent their mutilation wound from closing is true as well. Reality isn’t always comfortable.

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        the same kind of power tripping neckbeard discord mods

        I’ll never understand the intense and visceral anger some people on the internet have towards facial hair. Also really leaning into the 4chan-esque Everyone Online Is Dudes trope.

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          Because a neck beard isn’t facial hair. It’s neck hair. Neckbeards are usually indications of poor hygiene rather than some appreciation of facial hair

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            I can’t believe I’m defending neckbeards but…hey if Ringo Starr can rock the neckbeard, it’s not all bad!

            And I’m sure loads of people with neckbeards have overall poor grooming and hygiene, but I’m also sure plenty have good hygiene.

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      Yeah, you are very recognisable, but people like me, who lurk most of the time, comment maybe once a month.

      Not very memorable.

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      I see you everywhere and I enjoy it. Thanks for contributing to all the conversations. O7

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    There’s one user that seems to be everywhere and it’s probably the same user everyone is thinking of right now lol.

    I’m also surprised I come across other “agents” on here more frequently than I would expect.

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    I don’t post nearly as much as I would like, because I post some stream related stuff in my own community on lemmy and don’t know want to come off as someone who is trying to advertise all the time. I have been reported for that posting to my own community, which… ya know. I get it, nobody cares about yet another streamer dude, but it is a bit intimidating almost.

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      If it’s any consolation, i checked out your stuff, and while i don’t really play TTRPG’s i know a couple of people who do, so I’ll be sure to recommend your stuff to them.

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    I notice a lot of the same people in most of the popular posts. I guess it’s because the quantity of people that usually comment vs voting or just reading post is pretty low, so you’ll start to recognize them everywhere

    It makes me wonder if people recognize me from other posts I comment on!

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    The trick is not to read the usernames. I imagine myself surrounded by millions of mostly sensible people!

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    I almost never comment on anything. I imagine most users are like me.

    Yes, I do see the same names popping up all the time.

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        Not the person you asked but another lurker. Social interaction is hard, even posting this I’m having second thoughts about it, but I still like to feel like a member of the community.

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          Congratulations to you on interacting! I agree with everything you said.

          I’m certainly not one of the lemmy celebrities, but I’ve got nearly 900 comments on lemmy where I doubt I had 100 on Reddit. Not going back to check.

          Lemmy is a just nicer place to comment than Reddit: smaller audience, kinder communities, much less intimidating. I don’t consider there to be any pressure to make posts or to comment, but if you do, I doubt you’ll regret it.

          Either way, I personally am happy to have you here.

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          My published comments are probably about 20% of comments I start. I just give up most of the time because it wasn’t important or I can’t word something how I like in the moment

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            If I notice that I am spending too much time trying to cover all the bases so someone can’t nitpick or acktually my reply I just give up and hit cancel. I appreciate an entertaining comment thread, what bug the shit out of me are people that reply to a comment with an obscure edge case or who are just pedantic for the sake of being pedantic.

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      That’s more difficult than it would seem. Especially since the niche stuff i would be interested in fostering is… well… niche. And lemmy isn’t that large. YET!

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        One dedicated person is sometimes all it takes to Kickstart a community. Every lemmy comm or their subreddit ancestors started the same way

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          I’ve started a few communities. I have to admit that attempting to be the one dedicated poster has burned me out of a hobby and made me not want to post anything anymore. It certainly isn’t for everyone.

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            The way I do it, is not to stress about keeping up a posting schedule. I just keep posting interesting stuff I find in the community and eventually more people gather. It’s how I started /r/piracy

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          One person can suffer from “shouting into the void”. Finding at least one other regularly poster helps a lot

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    I’m not usually an internet commentor, but I try to chip in on Lemmy sometimes. I think most people just treat it like the rest of social media today, where the smart idea is to just lurk