I have so many things I want to do but just can’t. Play a video game, read a book, take dog for walk, build a gadget I bought parts for, finish writing a song, finish building a computer… But no, I just sit there stuck. How do I get unstuck?

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    Imake a list and number them and then go on random.org and have it choose an integer and then i do the the thing on the list that matches the number randomly chosen.

    This way i’m not making a decision, the lord of chaos is.

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        My wife has a dog too. With the large fenced in yard, they are good to go. They can run faster than I ever will. It’s more about the bonding part.

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          Ah, that sounds lovely. I didn’t know if you had a yard at all so erred on the side of caution

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      Tried it, not a great success… The only result is making me not want whatever was chosen anymore.

      • Movie A or movie B?
      • I can’t decide… I want to watch both…
      • Lets flip a coin.
      • The coin says movie A.
      • I don’t want movie A anymore. Movie B it is then.
      • Wait maybe the coin is using reverse psychology on me… I should pick movie C that wasn’t in the list just to be safe.

      My brain has this awful tendency of going “I could have done it a minute ago but now that someone else told me to I can’t anymore”

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        If you flip a coin and don’t like the answer that just means you already decided but didn’t realize you had decided.

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          No it’s really that the result feels like a decision imposed on me and my brain can’t deal with that… It’s the same if I start to do something I want, then someone calls to tell me to do it and now I can’t do it anymore. Not sure if it’s PDA or something else, but it’s really annoying, especially in combination with AuDHD.

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            Was just about to suggest it might be PDA. I have a bit of that and it is rather annoying. Some techniques ive used go combat this:

            • challenge yourself. Or someone else challenge you to do a thing. “I bet you can’t do x.”
            • give yourself a couple choices that lead to the same result and then just lick one. This one can be tough if im feeling indecisive.

            Neither are perfect but they do help sometimes.

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              Nice suggestions, thanks!

              Challenges usually get the opposite reaction than demands for me, I can’t even count all the stuff I’ve done because of it. Maybe self (not-)imposed challenges would work? I’ll need to give it a try. Though challenges also have their problems, like picking the most stupid or pointless ideas because I was advised not to do it. I think there’s a correlation between how stupid and pointless an idea is and how quickly my brain latches onto in 😅

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      Also with the list. Just not the random thing. I pick a small thing off the list and knock out, that sense of accomplishment helps me knock other things off the list.

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      Python and other programming languages can do that too, if the person also wants everything offline, and/or can’t focus while waiting for webpages to load.

      Been using that myself and though not ideal since too many concurrent interests, it helps a bunch.

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        If the person doesn’t know how to code, just ask some of those AI tools available around. If on Windows, the person could even ask for the AI to make a .bat script that only exits after pressing enter or the sort, to be as straight-forward as possible.