It didn’t used to be. At least for me and i don’t recall constantly seeing posts on social media about how lonely and sad everyone was or how to make friends. Now every other magazine article is about how lonely everyone is, nobody gets together, and gen Z doesn’t socialize, drink, or have sex.
Why is there such an epidemic of loneliness and why are people content to be lonely rather than socialize?
Why is so hard to connect? Because people having nothing in common anymore? I used to connect with people over books, movies, hobbies, etc. But now it feels increasingly hard to do that. Most folks I meet don’t care about any of that, they just mostly complain about their lives to you or go on political rants about how unfair the world is.
My friends and my dates no longer seem to watch films, or do much of anything other than spend time on social media? I dont’ use social media so I’m pretty ignorant of it all.
Where I live people don’t act normal in public anymore. They b asically make internet comments at each other IRL and don’t really interact, at least not in the traditional way I do. I find most people find a legit conversation is ‘scary and weird’. they mostly just want ot make random commentary at you, rather than talk to you.
Yeah thats horrible. Social media has changed how people act in real life for sure. I guess if they are rude to people online, they also feel like its fine to be rude to people in real life.
This guy talks a lot about this topic and I think he is straight on point. Perhaps a bit too negative sometimes but i get it. Its a battle to not get influenced by this. https://youtube.com/@dapperdev
the other thing is people like go out in a group and just sit there on their phones together. it’s wild.
I get ton of feedback now that I am ‘too intense’ because I interact with people and ask them questions rather than just make vague comments at them. 10 years ago most people seemed to enjoy and be flattered that I asked them questions.
When I go out, we dont sit on our phones. But im middle aged. Me and my friends talk and make bad jokes and laugh a lot. If someone would sit on their phone, they would get made fun of. :)
It just sounds like you dont have that chemistry together, the one that makes you want to laugh just seeing the other guys.