I’m probably just an asshole nobody wants to talk to, but I can hardly even get a reply text from anyone anymore. A couple people have told me that they are just feeling burnt out/depressed/etc and don’t have even enough energy to answer a message anymore. But I’ve also had some long time friends just entirely ghost me in the last year as well with no explanation. It feels like I’m surrounded by NPCs. I’ve basically just stopped reaching out to anyone at this point. Outside of my work, literally the only people I talk to are my parents, sister, and my girlfriend. Everyone else seems dead inside. I used to have at least 10 people who I could call on a moments notice and all of those people are gone.

  • DeceasedPassenger@lemmy.world
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    12 hours ago

    Not sure why you’re being shit on so hard in the comments. Speaking as someone who’s pretty guilty of soft ghosting people, including longtime friends. I don’t really mean to do it. I lie to myself and say I’ll reply later. Reason why I’m not replying at the time usually being lack of energy. My worldview is so bleak and warped from what it used to be that it’s unrecognizable. Sometimes I feel like why bother replying, I’ve got nothing new and if they ask how I’m doing it’ll just bring them down with the same old shit. My texting is mostly mechanical. Order ready for pickup, meeting location/time, etc. And I’m getting tired of tacking on positive lies to keep the vibe acceptable. “…but I’m making things work”, “…but I’m doing alright”, “…but things will get better soon I’m sure.”

    • tedd_deireadh@lemmy.world
      16·
      11 hours ago

      Same. I’ve always been bad at replying to people in general, and it’s worse with friends that I have to hype myself up to talk to just so I can match their energy. Not their fault, of course, but as you said, you don’t want to bring your friends down.

      OP, I say keep trying. Everyone needs friends and the more, the better. Just keep the judgement low and try to be understanding of where people can be at in their life journey. I promise that they will appreciate you for reaching out.

      As a side note, I’ve gone years without speaking to some friends and when I’ve dug myself out of a hole or they’ve crawled out of the woodwork, we’ve reconnected. And because we were understanding and accepting of what each other has gone through, our relationship is stronger.