Edit: while I’m at it, does anyone know what I should do when I’m waiting for a coincidence/adventure to happen, but it never comes? I can’t really go outside and arrange for it to happen because I don’t know what I’m looking for.
“Life sucks and then you die” - Vince McMahon
I feel scammed
Don’t set yourself on fire just to keep others warm.
“Everything you want in life has teeth”.
It means no matter what you think you want that’ll surely make you perfectly happy, it’ll never quite be what you want.
“The more you tell the truth, the more your life becomes an adventure”.
My favorite psychology professor told me this, and it rings true. I’m autistic, and have an obsession with never saying anything inaccurate or untruthful, even if it’s a common way to phrase things.
I’ve also had a ridiculously interesting bunch of adventures in my life, and it just keeps getting more interesting.
I think that my unwillingness to bend the truth in order to fit in or smooth things over or ignore things, has led to a lot of those adventures happening.
We tend to use lies, as a culture, to stabilize our lives into predictable, known shapes. Once you stop that, it goes off the rails very quickly.
Same here! Life is so much easier if you just tell the truth. This is a great quote.
“you can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you find you get what you need”. - the great philosopher Jagger
I may not always get exactly what I want, but if I put in the effort and do my best, I find that sometimes what I want is not what I needed in the end.
“Easy things tend to become hard, and hard things tend to become easy.”
This was said to me by my mentor when I was contemplating a very difficult career choice. I have found a lot of truth in it through various areas of my life. The most striking has been watching people I knew when I was much younger who always look for the easy way out of whatever life throws at them. Over time I’ve watched how this catches up to people and makes life much harder for them because they never plan, never save, never deny themselves in the moment.
The most-predictable method I know-of, for producing inability-to-plan, is chaotic/incomprehensible parenting or home-situation:
The child learns that there is no cause-effect relationship, that no planning is going to produce any results, & this lesson alters their unconscious brain-wiring … by the age of 7?
Possibly younger.
WHEN life is irrational & chaotic, THEN planning is wasted-effort, & only immediate-gratification produces any worthwhile results.
That sabotage-of-a-life isn’t undoable.
Worse, it’s self-perpetuating, generation on generation.
Breaking the cycle … how could it happen?
You’d need to break the brokenness in the parenting, itself, & you’d need to do it consistently, for the next-generation, so they grew-up with stable & trustworthy parenting, through years of young-childhood…
how could such result be created.
No population would tolerate such alteration of their family-process, would they?
Not sure why you were downvoted. In some instances I think this may absolutely be a factor and the generational perpetuation of such an environment is hard to overstate. My spouse and I refer to it as “One Hundred Years of Solitude” after the amazing novel by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. If you haven’t read it, it follows this family in Columbia through multiple generations showing how self-destructive behaviors can be passed through generations in a self-perpetuating way. That’s an aside to say that I agree that yes I suspect that for some folks this is a part of the story.
„Bees don’t waste their time explaining flies that honey tastes better than shit.“
Haha this is a good one. I can see where it applies
I don’t know who originally said it, but “Everything in moderation, including moderation.” That is, it’s okay to go overboard on something as long as that’s an exception, not a norm. Want to eat a whole carton of ice cream? It’s not going to kill you if you do it, as long as you don’t do it every weekend. Enjoy stuff, don’t be excessive generally, but the rare occasion is just fine.
Note: there are, of course, exceptions. You probably don’t want to try even a little black tar heroin unless you’re okay with the risk of becoming an addict.
I’ve heard that quote attributed to Charles Bukowski. No idea if true though
Misery is not a currency.
Meaning you cannot pay off grief, sadness, guilt, or remorse by forcing yourself to be miserable. It’s not a penance. Fell your feelings, and get on with life.
“After everything is said and done, there’s a lot more said than done.”
— my old man
“Never half-ass two things. Whole-ass one thing.”
-Ron Swanson
This one really applies to me right now. It’s just so hard to bring yourself to do the whole-hearted thing when the whole-hearted thing comes at a price
“The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is right now.”
Stop regretting what you didn’t do in the past, and do it now. Time will continue to march into the future irrespective of whatever actions you take. In another 20 years from now would you like to arrive there having accomplished many of your goals or accomplishing nothing?
“I’ll take a weird person over a mean person any day.”
“You’re imagining everyone in this story way more attractive than they actually were.”
- some reddit guyBuilding self esteem requires esteemable acts.
