The whole concept of not knowing what you’ve got until it’s gone. Remember that song you used to hate hearing and now 20 some years later, you’d wish we’d be back to music like it because music today is too artificial and AI-powered? Remember nearly a lot of things you criticized and now have a soft spot for because everything now has gone to shit?
Yeah, that hits hard. What sucks is that sometimes, you don’t know for certain if you’re experiencing the best of things. But once it passes you, give it 1 - 5 years, you’ll know it.
There is no karma, evil assholes get away with it and live to ripe old ages far more often than they should
Maybe there’s Heaven and Hell, though. Hopefully, right?
the very idea of some post-life reckoning is just a tool of social control meant to keep the workers from turning on their betters, because “it’ll all be made right in the end”.
what did the king say to the pope?
you keep em dumb, i’ll keep em poor
I don’t think that’s the origin, just the way belief/religion has been used by some immoral leaders. 🤷
That eventually you have to say goodbye to parents, grandparents, animals, and loved ones - and there will always be a good you can’t fill that they filled.
Grief is the price of love. 🥲
that assumes they haven’t been a burden.
the best thing that ever happened to me was my dad dying. a huge cloud of anger, hate, and bitterness lifting out of my life.
A tad fucked that you only think of the current and not the length of their impact on your life.
In 1994, I didn’t own a computer yet, smartphones weren’t a thing yet, I was 12 years old and learning to fix and rebuild lawnmowers and go-karts.
Age 13, I got my first computer, and promptly learned how to crash it that evening. Turned out it had a DriveSpace compressed hard drive, 125 whopping megabytes, and I didn’t understand any of that yet on that very evening. But I had the manuals and the disks, and gradually learned the basics over the next 2 weeks to reformat and reinstall everything my uncle gave me.
By age 15 they were starting to shut down the local parts shops for small engine parts. Now mind you, that was way before online ordering was the big thing, and I was still running Windows 3.11, which I later upgraded to Windows 95, via floppy disk of course, because who in 1995 got a donor hand-me-down computer with a CD-ROM drive?
So, I started learning more about computers, and gradually learning automotive repair, the whole time building custom bicycles, because I had way too many spare junkyard bicycle parts.
But today, I dunno what the fuck to do. People don’t really want things fixed like they used to, and even when they do, affordable parts are getting almost impossible to find for modern vehicles and devices.
I get by fixing older vehicles like from 2005 and before, wondering what the fuck done happened to society over all these years?
I’m sorry, I could go on and on, there’s soo many things I can maintain and rebuild even, if only you could get parts and tools for modern stuff.
Right To Repair!
People don’t really want things fixed like they used to, and even when they do, affordable parts are getting almost impossible to find for modern vehicles and devices.
God damn do I feel that.
I recently replaced my dryer. It suddenly started making a really alarming banging noise.
I’m a DIY-minded guy, spent maybe an hour taking the damn thing apart.
And I found the issue- a bad drum roller. Theoretically an easy enough fix once you have the whole dryer apart like I did (which wasn’t really hard, just time-consuming)
I went online and searched out the part, and it was going to cost me almost $200 (granted I was going to replace all 4 rollers, if one went there’s a good chance the others weren’t far behind)
For a bit of plastic and rubber that looks a hell of a lot like a scooter wheel.
And while I was in there, there were a couple belts and pulleys and such that I also wanted to replace. Stuff that was bound to wear out eventually, and the dryer was about 15 years old.
So all in I was looking at probably close to $4-500 in parts. Couple hundred more and I could just get a whole new dryer, which seemed like the smart choice because who knows what else might have been about to go- the motor, the heating element, any of the electronics
So that’s what I did. And I hated it. There was something I could have fixed, I wanted to fix it, but it just didn’t make financial sense to fix it.
This wasn’t a dryer from some oddball fly-by-night unheard of AliExpress brand, it’s an overall respectable company that makes a pretty reliable product. And this wasn’t a particularly specialized part, it was basically just a wheel. It should be the kind of thing that’s pretty much standardized, used by every company in countless models of different appliances, and available for cheap off the shelf at any hardware store. I should have been able to walk into Ace hardware and go buy something like a generic “3 inch roller wheel” for like $5, took it home, and slapped it onto my machine.
But instead it was some proprietary bullshit and I couldn’t find any readily available off-the-shelf part for a reasonable price that would have fit quite right.
They literally reinvented the wheel so that some years down the line I’d have to shell out money for a new dryer instead of fixing the one I had.
If they use standardized/universal parts and let you buy replacement parts for cheap, then how are they supposed to get you to buy a new dryer every ten years?
Think of the shareholders!
you could probably 3d print a replacement for fraction of the cost, just need to get the dimensions right
because repair doesn’t make economical sense when it is cheaper to replace.
And that’s half of how we ended up in the era of enshittification.
Let’s say one of the control knobs on your 15 year old dumb stove fails, shorted out, where as soon as you turn it to low heat the eye is blazing hot at full heat. Do you?..
- A. Just not use that eye anymore
- B. Buy a new control knob and get another 10 years out of it
- C. Buy a whole new stove, that may last 5 years, and wants you to connect to the internet so they can eventually brick the firmware
We went with option B, way cheaper than a new stove, plus none of the headaches of modern digital technology. Like, why do appliances need modern digital technology? A stove heats food, plain and simple, and that’s all it needs to do.
And look at these new refrigerators coming out, that fail within weeks to months, maybe at best a couple or few years. When your grandma’s old fridge was passed down from her mom and has been kicking strong for 50 years, save for that new door seal installed like 15 years ago…
Sigh, we live in a disposable dystopia anymore ☹️
You aren’t painting the full picture. The new stove is probably more efficient, cleaner, etc. Modern digital tech makes them better at these things. I have a 20 year old purely analog stove. It sucks balls. But I’m too cheap to justify buying an new one until it breaks. That’s entirely on me though.
You are also grossly exaggerating things. I have a 4 year old washer, it came with a 10 year warranty. it broke twice already but both times it was covered under warranty at no cost to me. It was electronic failures. It’s super efficient and I love it. Granted if I bought a cheapo one that was $300, it probably wouldn’t have such a good warranty.
There are lots of choices. Nobody is forcing you to buy fridges that break. And plenty of companies do consumer testing for you such that you can buy a reliable model.
What you have is nostalgia. I had computers in the 90s too… they broke all the fucking time. I barely got 1 year old of a HDD back then. So yeah you had to repair them. Modern SSDs last much longer because they have no moving mechanical parts, on time of being blazingly faster.
Shitty stuff was always shitty. Good stuff is will always be good. There were shitty computer brands and appliance brands 20 years ago
Getting older and watching loved ones get older
It’s the fact that the easier options are bad choices.
It’s easier to sit around the house than it is to exercise. It’s easier to order pizza than it is to cook something. It’s easier to be ignorant than actually learn and change.
The easy choice should be the good one. Making a bad choice should take effort.
Maybe there’s a lesson/path of action therein.
Maybe it’s how you look at it. In the moment it’s an easier choice. But in the long run one leads to health complications and harder to come back from.
I call it Immediate gratification. Doesnt mean the choice is easier: just less with thought, self love or intention.
i think stress is a bigger problem. That needs to be addressed more seriously especially in a capitalist hell scape. Eating/drinking to find comfort/self medicate is but a symptom of a bigger problem.
It’s so long. Like holy shit, I get the picture already. This is egregious.
You don’t like grinding for 80 years?
Yes and no, depending on the definition.
What would you prefer? To sit on your ass and do nothing for 80 years?
What would I prefer? Doing whatever the fuck I want for 80 years.
so you basically hate responsibilities. got it
Yes, is that a bad thing? You can load up on responsibility and live your life based on what others think you should be doing if you want. I will be living as free as possible.
Every time I think about my cats I get so envious.
It’s so unenjoyable for you you’d rather just die now?
Yeah, pretty much. I’m ready to be done any time now.
But what about pancakes? 😔
Childhood that’s gone in what feels like an instant before you had the chance to appreciate it, and by the time you do enjoy it after the fact, from memory, the moment is already long gone, no matter how hard you cling onto the memory, its already in the past, you have no time machine to go back and re-do that again.
The monotony. Life has wonderful moments, and there is joy and love. There is also the constant grind. Buying groceries, cooking meals, doing laundry, cleaning. Things that we never thought of as children, but it takes so much time just to continue living and filling basic needs. That’s when you start to really appreciate the replicators in Star Trek. Sure at first it’s like “I could have takeout anytime”, but then you realize oh my god if I didn’t have to shop, get groceries, cook, put them away, move them home, the whole thing, we’d have so much more time.
What if you like doing those things? I don’t regard any of those things as a grind. I find them liberating and I hate it when I life gets in the way of me doing my chores.
I can’t say I enjoy those things, but you’re right, it’s far from a grind. Those tasks are a part of daily life, they need to be done so best crack on and get them done. Anyone who sees those things as an inconvenience or a hindrance to the extent it makes them hate life are not mature enough for the gift of life.
More power to you I suppose?
Nothing truly sucks about life. We could literally not exist, but instead we do. Existing is the coolest fucking thing ever. I’m glad I exist. Nothing truly sucks about existing compared to what not existing would be like.
“It’s a wonder to be alive. If you don’t understand that, how can you search for anything deeper?” - Liu Cixin
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Egoistic people. Too many just see their own needs, and I’m not talking about basic needs. They are stressed and drive recklessly, don’t think about others when making decisions and so on. And in the and, we all pay a higher price for insignificant or no benefit of individuals. Life would be way easier if we could just slow down and stop having all those unrealistic expectations about what should be and started appreciate what is.
And yes I know that the world is a shitshow right now. I’m not saying you should ignore that.
agree with you. egotism is run rampant. especially in regard to politics, lifestyle etc. everyone seems to think anyone who doesn’t reflect their immediate needs or views is evil and awful.
people simple can’t tolerate anyone being different than them, because it’s a challenge to their ego because it might mean they are wrong.
i remember when social media was fun and people celebrated differences, now they just tear each other apart over ever minor difference. i used to me allowed to do stuff and enjoy my life… now everything I do or don’t do is ‘problematic’.
The worst part is isolation. I think most of us are suffering from lack of community
Community comes with costs, and I don’t think many people are willing to pay the costs of community.
I for one, would rather be alone and happy, than part of a community and miserable. Like I was in the past. Belonging comes at a cost.
Lord of the flies was a thinly-veiled allegory for how the world actually works. There’s no growup keeping it in check, we’re on our own, and we’re not great at it.
The many ways people try to make it not that. Like just lying to themselves. Or scapegoating some subset of humanity they’re not in for it (which happens equally across the political spectrum).
Seemin unability to truly live in the current moment. Always have to be thinking about the past or worrying about the future. With a decade of experience in meditation I’ve seen glimpses of what it could be like when you just are and everything is okay. It’s all just so fleeting.
When you hit a certain age, you’ll wake up with a new pain and that will be your new normal. Then, your life will be nothing but physical and emotional pain. You’ll just have more of a threshold.
Sounds like you had a nice childhood and don’t like getting older?
For those of us who had bad childhoods, getting older is liberating and joyful. My life gets better and better every year and the worst years of my life were my youth.
“Nothing but emotional pain”… It seems to me like you’re generalising a personal experience.
Yup. Restarted a sport way later in life when I barely gave it a chance in my youth and wishing I did. When I get invited it takes 12x as long to heal too.
3 years I had a normal blood pressure.
5 years and 2 months ago I had a back.
10 years ago I had knees.
Oh, and I haven’t slept more than 5 or 6 hours a night in several years and most of the time I’m lucky to get 4.
I truly do not mind getting older. It has a lot of benefits, but damn… I’d like there be enough of my body left to enjoy it.
