every time we go out to eat, I take like two bites and feel like throwing up, and I’m not one to get nauseous easily. this only started when we started dating (wed been best friends for 3 years or so up until that)
its not new food, I’ve been to these places many times before
It’s because you’re pregnant.
But on all seriousness, some say that there are cases when the would-be-father also feels nauseous with food when the girl gets pregnant.
don’t think that’s a possibility currently
very interesting tho
Studio audience: OOOOOOOO!!!
Pregante.
am I gregnant?
can u burn a luigi board?
Is you prefnet?
Placebo effect?
Maybe you got a touch of food poisoning one of the first times and now you subconsciously associate it with date nights?Fun fact! When the effect on your health is negative instead of positive it’s known as the nocebo effect.
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Well, I thought that fact was fun…
Maybe there’s something you need to get off your chest. Maybe you feel like you’re not being true to yourself.
If you feel like something needs to change in your relationship, better to put it out there and work through it than keep it hidden.
It’s possible they changed their recipe to include something you may be allergic to or it’s a new allergy
Go to the same restaurants at the same time under the same conditions (i.e. how recently you ate another meal, day of the week, the weather, etc.) but with a different person and see if you still feel ill. Vary the conditions until you find one that correlates with your illness. Then try altering that condition.
If you feel ill under all conditions then see a doctor. In fact it might be good to make a doctor appointment anyway.
yeah good idea honestly
But babe, we have to go out tonight. It’s for science!
“You’re not my sidechick, you’re my control condition!”
“I know you’re sick of it, but I’m gonna need you to get the chicken Parm again. Trust the process!”
Isolating variables like this is so cool!
unit testing eating?
Maybe she’s poisoning you to get even for not asking her out earlier.
haha maybe
Maybe you’re spending money you shouldn’t. Also, maybe youre spending your heart when you shouldn’t.
My first thought is that there’s something about those first couple of bites that triggers the anxiety. Could be subconscious (well, it is subconscious currently if you’re unaware of a cause).
Are there any particular thoughts that occur when the meal arrives? Even thoughts that occur only briefly to be replaced by others?
I’ll have to pay more attention to that I suppose
This was my first thought. Being pretty poor most of my life, I’ve had that “oh-shit” gut-punch when going out to eat a lot of times. Money problems suck.
Is this one of those “red flags” people keep talking about?
Did you sign up for any life insurance policies with her recently? Add her to your will? Is she currently borrowing something and has mentioned “jokingly” about how she’d really like to keep it?
Not a high probability, mind you, but since the subject was raised…
she does have my hoodie right now…
She really likes her new hoodie.
I have a similar issue sometimes. I feel like I get overstimulated by smells in restaurants… Also I’m lazy so I eat boring food at home, so maybe the variety contributes to the nausea.
Also I’m celiac, which definitely doesn’t help.
Try cooking dinner at home together and see if it happens.
Ok, that helps. Still I think to look at what happens just before might help.
This happened to me as well. I’d take a few bites of a meal and feel full/ nauseous; Sometimes even throw up. It went away after maybe 6 months of dating and we joke about it now 12 years later.
We chalked it up to nerves, but no one can tell for sure. Best of luck OP! Guessing you really like this person.
I hope that’s it and it goes away on. its own
yeah we’ve liked eachother for two years now, but I was too dense to realized she liked me back and she was too shy to say anything lol
It could be financial. Are you spending more money now that you’re a couple?
I mean a little, but ive got the money. and she pays half the time and those times aren’t any better so I don’t think its that. I also generally don’t think about money all that much.
My husband would get wild upset stomachs before we went out on a date. His aunt would tease him that he was allergic to me. It was anxiety.
I could spend the whole weekend with him in his apartment, and he’d feel fine. It only happened before we planned to go out to dinner specifically. Lunch was nbd to his brain.
interesting. now that I think about it the less fancy the place the more likely I’ll be okay I think? but imma start taking notes
but yeah that’s probably what it is
Money is a serious thing. If your relationship is going to make your financial life unsustainable, that needs resolving.
Really think about what you are expecting of yourself at times like that. Sometimes nice restaurants make me feel pressured to have a good time or otherwise “fit in” with the other people eating there.
Maybe she’s poisoning you just a tiny bit at a time. Kidding, but have you guys eaten a meal at home together without you feeling sick?
not really, she came over once and we ate like polish crepes i made, and that was fine, but not much of a meal, no
I would try that a few more time, the fact that you were doing something will help with any anxiety
I don’t have an answer, but congrats on being one of the few to break that friendship zone barrier
thanks mate
Are you just really nervous about being on a date?
I don’t think so? but that could be a factor I suppose
Are there awkward pauses during your dinners? Do you think about things to talk about beforehand?
I guess maybe try to observe what happens just before you get sick each time.
we’ve been friends for long enough that there’s never really any awkward silence
silence, sure, but not awkward
Your brain has a mind of its own!
As does your gut!
Are you reacting to her perfume? Maybe she didn’t put it on when you were just friends.
no she definetly did, same one as always, and its not strong
also that would make me nauseous in the car as well, not just when eating
If this is real, it’s absolutely fascinating :)
how so?
I’ve never heard about anyone getting physically sick from eating food with their girlfriend. :)
no its just bad anxiety
Ok :) Yeah I don’t know what that feels like.
