Is it an ADHD thing to need time alone more than neurotypical people do? And if so, how do make sure you get it?

I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD but am starting to suspect that I have it.

One thing I know about myself is that I REALLY struggle if I can’t have time alone and it’s also the main thing that I know that the people in my life struggle to accept about me. It makes me feel really bad not getting enough time alone and not feeling like it’s OK with other people if I take it.

Not sure if this is something people with ADHD relate to. Maybe you guys can tell me?

      • Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
        10·
        12 hours ago

        It’s very tough being an introvert living with extroverts.

        On the other hand, introverts spending time together is a bunch of solo tasks in the same room, and wonderful

        • Brave Little Hitachi Wand@feddit.ukEnglish
          7·
          12 hours ago

          The company of an introvert is a sublime thing, to be among others but not have any demands made of us.

          The company of an extrovert is a grand thing, to another extrovert.

        • orca@orcas.enjoying.yachtsEnglish
          5·
          12 hours ago

          My wife and I have a friend that’s an introvert like we are. Sometimes he’ll come over and we might play a bunch of Mario Party and Mario Kart, but other times we will all play separately on our handhelds or laptops and chill while something plays on YouTube. Sublime. Don’t need to constantly have a conversation going and there’s no drinking involved.

  • corsicanguppy@lemmy.caEnglish
    11·
    12 hours ago

    I saw some clip that suggested introverts burn some chemical as they socialize, and after about 140 min it’s depleted and they feel an aggressive need to recharge.

    I asked my wife and she was SURE there was merit to this, just based how how I perform in groups – I’m apparently charming as shit but the mask slips almost exactly on that schedule and I get a little too ‘me’ after that.

    Consider the timing and see if you spot the trend. Also, the clips that talk about that basically say “hit the loo and get some isolation for 10 min and you’re good for another hour” which may be a good recovery/marathon trick.

  • empireOfLove2@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    15·
    13 hours ago

    May be more of an AuDHD spectrum thing rather than pure adhd…

    Socializing requires executive focus. I have to listen and think about what the person is doing, then figure out how to respond, which needs active thought as I’m (probably) on spectrum. It interrupts my normal brain flow. That gets tiring very quickly when it is already a lot of mental work to maintain task focus while alone.

    • SpikesOtherDog@ani.socialEnglish
      10·
      13 hours ago

      Now that you explain it, that makes a lot of sense.

      In written form I can consume the info and place it into context.

      Listening actively, I am managing not just storing and responding, but also engagement, expressions, tone, volume, tangential thoughts (me too), and external information.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    12 hours ago

    I can relate. I’m definitely an introvert. Definitely ADHD, and possibly mildly autistic.

    Do with that information what you will.

    Although, when I’m together with people I’m comfortable with (old friends that I have no hesitations about really being myself) I don’t feel socially drained. I’m usually the one trying to get them to stay longer than we had planned.

  • Iced Raktajino@startrek.websiteEnglish
    3·
    13 hours ago

    Not sure if ADHD specific or a symptom of being “on the spectrum” or a bit of both (have never been diagnosed either way but show all the signs), but I have a very low capacity “social battery” and am very sensitive to noise. The end result is I crave (relative) solitude and quiet or else I’m useless at getting anything done.