I’ve treated Lemmy as a fun, silly blog since I made my account. I love how you can freely post anywhere and as much as you like, unlike on Reddit. I’m also a teen who grew up online with unrestricted internet access and does online school, so I’m a bit addicted to being online. I love how much more interactive the comments feel here, despite it being a smaller platform. I’ve had fun reading and interacting with people. But I think I might delete my account and everything, because people analyzing my behavior and accusing me of things has started to get to me. Most recently, someone accused me of trying to manipulate people because of my age and gender. All I wanted to do was make people feel some fun and giggles. I’m wondering if you’ve ever felt something similar.
I deleted my Reddit account and made a new one after my ex messaged me, it’s a reasonable precaution and good opsec if you don’t feel comfortable with people having an easy time tracking you. I want to avoid doing that here if I can though. I don’t know to what extent a record of the things you’ve said can pseudonymously establish status as a unique person given the way AI is changing things, but the other options seem to involve trusting untrustworthy entities or giving up on the internet entirely so it seems worth trying.
I have been online since 1993 and had been taught and continue to treat everything I post as if it will never be deleted. I don’t see a point in deleting my accounts when the data has very likely been duplicated the instant I sent it and could still easily be reposted or used by whoever has access to the database it is stored on; let alone the multitude of unknown bots and agents that may have duplicated it independently.
So, no. It never even crosses my mind because I think it is rather pointless.
Eh. Sure.
I was also a teenager on the internet, back when Reddit was a chill place to be. Now I’m an adult, with… responsibilities.
My advice?
Enjoy yourself, have fun, be unfiltered, be silly. The internet isn’t that big of a deal as long as you keep a degree of separation between your irl identity and online life. It’s liberating especially as someone who was a bit socially awkward.
Still, don’t forget mental hygiene. A break is good from time to time. Talk to people irl, take a walk, touch grass.
When people get angry online, I do my best to be a duck, let it wash off, respond either pleasantly or with cheer. Life is too short to be miserable, so go forth and have fun little duckling :)
If Lemmy is a service you’ve enjoyed and you aren’t trying to hurt anyone, why let random jerks ruin it for you and chase you off? Just block them and forget they ever existed. This is the way.
True. Maybe I’m just softer than I thought. But having someone write a whole accusatory paragraph about me when I’ve never even stirred the pot feels pretty bad.
It’s the internet and you’re having fun. Everyone on here is a dog pretending to be a person, but sometimes you’re gonna get random accusations of whatever. Hell sometimes they’re gonna be right
It’s genuinely a useful skill to learn to brush stuff like this off.
Don’t feel bad about it. He’s basically saying he thinks you’re too cool to actually be real, so you must be fake. Seems like a compliment to me.
Here’s a little something you can send to that person, and people like them:
Or if you prefer…
Carry on, shitpost soldier. 🫡
Congrats thats a heck of an achievement. Someone wrote a small paper on you. Thats pretty cool.
I, a very normal lady -like I would not give out identifying info but you’d probably be surprised- reading this post like 👀. I am sure I’m not the only one lol. Some of us have strong ideals about healthier internet browsing and are giving the fediverse a try. We are out there!
I’m sorry, but I’d have to simultaneously laugh and admire the fact that someone took that much time out of their day to analyze what I said and produce a paragraph like that. You’re literally living rent free in their head. Take that as a win and keep on trucking forward. Fuck the haters.
Honestly, I’d just create a new account/alias and carry on as normal. Maybe bounce around between a couple accounts on different instances, retiring any and replacing it if it gets too much negative heat.
Could always keep your icon or part of an alias name if you want them to be recognizable, but I wouldn’t bother personally.
Fresh starts are nice.
I let Chatgpt do an analysis of you. It says you’re:
Thoughtful and reflective. Curious about people and perspectives. Comfortable blending humour with deeper topics. Independent and self taught. Enjoys engaging with social discussion and community.
It also guessed you’re an adult Internet user 20-40.
Did Chatgpt do a better job than your hater?
Chatgpt doesn’t do a better job at anything
because no matter how many you block they are starting to make up the majority of the replies/comments you see on threads.
In that case, it’s probably a good idea to get mods involved or create a new account then, I suppose.
except when they are a mod or a mod alt.
It would be sad to see you go, your sense of humor has definitely made Lemmy more enjoyable lately. That said Lemmy isn’t worth it if your mental health would suffer. Do what’s best for you, and if that happens to be posting great shit posts then we will all benefit
Delete your account and create a new one. Problem solved.
But also, two things. First, always be questioning yourself. Those jerks might have a point. But second, jerks are jerks and you shouldn’t listen to them or be bothered by them.
If you can balance those two ideas, you’ll do really well online, and probably in real life too.
So you’re 18/f/cali and someone doesn’t believe you, I mean, personally I wouldn’t be putting personal info out there.
Saw someone comment that you’re like the female Mickey7, and yeah that seems spot on lol. I mean, not everyone’s going to like what you post, but that’s why it’s shitposting.
Who cares what people think, as long as you’re enjoying posting stupid stuff.
Better than some people on here who create a new account every couple hours just to post 1 or two things, then delete their accounts to avoid being banned.
You do you.
Just block people.
And they can block you too.
There’s a lot of weird people on Lemmy, that’s not a bad thing, it’s normal for online spaces at this stage. But some people will dominate your time if you let them.
Most recently, someone accused me of trying to manipulate people because of my age and gender.
“Online no one knows I’m not a dog”
That type of stuff rarely comes up, so when people just constantly mention it, it gets noticed.
So just stop saying it, and problem solved
I think its way smaller than Reddit and its very easy to recognize frequent posters/commenters. You also have more impact more easily.
I would echo the others on that it is your choice on how much info you give out about yourself.
I think its crazy to get told that you are a manipulator when I think you are genuine. Especially with age I feel it can be very different how people behave in specific age ranges. If this interaction has felt like too much I think that is very understandable and its always your choice on how to proceed.
I also have to echo the others in saying that I found your postings very entertaining and would be sad to see you go, but you will always have to do whats best for you. I think the other commenter is an asshat though.
Personally I have already deleted some accounts, and having a new fresh slate can be real nice. So experiment with whatever you feel like. And thanks for sharing your silly thoughts until now. Especially a few of the hornier memes were perfect things I could forward to my friends and they also loved it.
There isn’t even a need to delete it, just make a new one.
I feel that whenever I scroll on a community that allows US politics.
I find it amusing when people try to analyse me. They spend all that time and effort only to be that wrong.
Anyway keep up the good work, you’re one of the funny people here even if you’re a Republican Chinese communist feminist MGTOW spy here to cause disharmony in utopia.
It’s interesting how negative comments affect me so much more than positive ones. I’ve definitely received far more positive feedback during my time here, but for every 100 positive comments, that one negative one really sticks with me.
It’s an anxiety thing; the actual name is “rejection sensitivity dysphoria”: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24099-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-rsd
A lot of AuDHD people suffer it. Great example, I started a business and I’ve gotten 99% positive feedback on the product from dozens of people, but a handful of negative comments and two of my best friends didn’t like it, and I’ve actually considered giving up entirely because of that.
Which is insane. I love my product, I’m very happy with it… but my buddies not liking it makes me very sad on a whole bunch of levels.
Also I did delete my old account and comments, precisely because as MagicShel said above: it had existed long enough to be a liability. It’s not as big a deal here as on Reddit though, you can export your preferences and get back to the same subscriptions and blocks very easily on any new account!
I’ll also say that for people who experience that intentionally building up distress tolerance is super valuable
That’s the universal human experience. Listen to every marginally famous person and they will tell you that a single negative comment feels like it weighs more than 100 positive ones. Then factor in that people who disagree feel compelled to voice their opinion while those who agree often silently nod to themselves and move on. So the 100 positive comments are likely representative of 500 people who agree but don’t say anything.
So far, you seem to be doing well. Don’t let a couple of the haters get to you.
Of course, if a pattern appears of many comments criticizing the same thing, then you can think about if there’s something you should change about your behavior. But even then, the change should come from your own realization that you want to change something, not from a desire to appeal to the faceless mass of terminally online weirdos.
Yep. That is true for most people.
My guess: survival instinct. It’s the haters that will stab you when you’re not paying attention. Unless you’re famous being hated on the Internet is safe. But our brains are made for surviving in the wild, not the Internet.
When I switched from Reddit to Lemmy, it was my opportunity to start a fresh feed.
I stayed away from things like relationships and AITA, because they usually just got me pissed off and fighting with people.
I keep a few political things because I do want to hear what people are saying about current events, but most of my feed now is jokes, and fun conversation.
The AITAs developed into Chatgpt testing grounds, so many stories that were clearly fake
So, at risk of sounding like an online stalker, I saw that comment while scrolling from that “50 year old woman” and it was just odd. Don’t take it too hard. Then switched feeds and saw this post.
I say this as nicely as I can, but, this place is largely a collection of nerds, social outcasts, Reddit fugitives(ie nerds and outcasts lol), and people that have been banned from Reddit. Not all or even many interactions here will be status quo.
If it negatively impacts your life, leave, if it’s a social outlet, treat it as such, and don’t take it too hard.
Don’t let dipshits run you out because their life is shit. Personally, I find your posts hilarious and look forward to them. It’d be a shame to lose you.
If you’re really just a teenage girl hanging out here, until you give proof that you are actually that, people will always wonder wtf you are doing here with all the nerds. And since posting pictures would be a terrible idea for so many reasons, no one will ever know and people will keep speculating or thinking it’s bullshit. And since this is a fringe anonymous communication platform, rightfully so. So idk just keep having fun
